Screaming Child

[hurricane]

I sometimes feel  so helpless. Sometimes my son, who is 4yrs old, really make me feel like i fail as a parent. I sometimes can't seem to discipline him. He will throw tantrums, scream and shout at us, his parents. I know it sounds like we are not very good parents if my boy can do that right??? I try to talk to him, try to punish him, but nothing seems to work. I am closer to him than my hubby is, thus i feel more responisble for his actions. I know he would probably have picked it up from me. It was my fault to have shouted at him when he was naughty. But is there anyone out there who experience same problems with their kids and can share some pointers?? or am i the only bad parent around??? sigh

[Alaska]

Hi, my son is also 4 yrs Horse year 2002 right?

What kind of discipline method do you use?

There are many types of discipline factors:
caning
pinching
slapping
facing the wall
verbal abuse
pull the ears, etc

or only talking to the child.

So which type do you believe in?

[hurricane]

i tried all sorts liao.... u know la, nobody is perfect and i'm one of those...not very proud of it. my first reaction is shouting at my child when he's naughty....i'm trying very hard not to do that as he's copying me....but sigh sometimes my anger get the better of me. i do smack my child even though i know my people would condemn it....but i still believe there's a difference between smacking him and abusing him. i tried talking or reasoning wif him. but being a 4 yr old, he only listens when he wants to and what he wants to, so sometimes it doesn't work. I also tried the "super nanny" method, which is the naughty corner, which doesn't seem to work at all. NOw when he starts screaming, i will just ignore him and let him cool down before giving him a cuddle.

[PowerPuffGirl]

Tried the Super nanny method? I tried on my son. Its works. But mine is still a baby. So the level of maturity is different. U try the timeout method. My frd did tat for hers and it works. Give him a corner to time out. Think tis give the parent and child to cool down before deriving the next action. Caning shd be the last to be done cos the kids nowadays are no longer as naive as us. Cane dun seems to work very effectively for this generation of the children. Too much of the DHA perhaps.