well everyone i still do agree with ur points..
that's when angmohs parenting skills do come in.
u know like we, asians, most of the time we act like 'we, ur parents, U our children' n 'i talk, u listen' attitude.
angmohs ways more like friend friend, easier to communicate at minimum barriers.
i think the preschoolers & primary school age are the time we teach & mould them based on how you want your child to be.
difficult part are usually during the preteens & beyond, or maybe not. it depends on how influential a child is. if say, you thought the children & they follow, adapt & use ur values n teachings. may be minimal problem.
yes, external environment like friends etc comes in the picture. then it boils to the child's individualistic minds. a friend can dare the child to do something bad, but with the parents' teachings & family values that comes into his strong character, he may not do cos the 'spirit of the parents' teachings & family values' guide him along.
another added value is to have one of the parent to stay at home. not just taking care & guiding but to be the children's friend. for them, coming back to an empty home can be quite emotional. i mean, this is idealistic lar.. but in singapore may not be possible. everytime after election increase gst how not to earn, right?
once, i asked my mom how parenting was for her. she said it's like flying kite and managing its string.
ps: i'm not trying to act smart hor. not implying that i am a good mother. i'm just sharing my thoughts ah... life is abt learning and i'm still learning to be a good parent, mother & friend to my children *peace*
Agree. Definitely parenting is one of the skills that we have to learn by experience. As my gf is a teacher, its quite common for parents to see teachers as surrogate parents, which is quite sad.